Things I Learned — Since I’ve Been Gone edition

If you get the reference, we can be friends.

If you get the reference, we can be friends.

Nothing and everything has happened since I’ve been gone. I didn’t originally plan to take a 2-3 month blogging break but I move as Life directs me…I’m not here to force anything yanno? But who cares about the hows and whys, let’s get into the heart of this weekly “Things I Learned” post. Unlike previous editions, today will cover a span of a few months instead of a weekend…so bear with me.

1. Retreats are good

retreat

Katy says I look awkward here. She is correct.

This year has turned into a time of following through on things we always wished we cold do but never really got around to doing. I attended my first retreat in a very long time a few months ago and the experience was exactly what I needed. It is necessary to withdraw from the energy created by this society that drowns in Maya, and dwell in pure presence from time to time. We danced, we sang, we listened to stories, we shared our truths, and we sat in silence. I promised myself to go on retreat as often as once every three months after that experience…..now I just gotta follow through!

2. Little White Lies are bad

They took a dope concept and made a decent movie. I'll take it.

They took a dope concept and made a decent movie. I’ll take it.

Aaaargh! I was supposed to mail Xhoja’s bathing suit back to her and forgot. But when Katy asked me that day I told her it was taken care of, thinking I’d just do it the next day, but then forgot again! I have worked so hard on being honest with Katy and not falling into the trap of having to be anyone other than myself, but I must admit on that day I was trying to avoid an argument. Of course, when the truth caught up with me a couple of months later, the argument was even greater because I had lied about the situation to begin with. Some lessons we have to learn over and over again…and it is important to remember these transgressions when we feel mistreated by others. Accepting and owning our mistakes makes it easier to see how others fall into the very same predicaments, and compassion can come forth out of that understanding.

3. There IS new music and artists worth listening to

Girrrrrrrrrrrrrrlllll

Girrrrrrrrrrrrrrlllll

I feel like I’m at an age where all the songs that I will ever deeply feel in my heart and soul have already been made. And although I’ve all but given up on popular music and artists, I must say there have been some pleasant surprises as of late. Last year brought Frank Ocean and Miguel to my playlist rotation, and over the past few weeks I’ve been enamored by the latest albums from Jhene Aiko and Emeli Sande. Whoa, that last sentence just gave me a great idea for a new Pandora station. Anyway, you may want to consider picking up what they are putting down. Oh yeah, Maya wants me to add Janelle Monae’s last album to this list because she has about 3-4 jams on there that he goes HARD for. One day I’m going to make a video and prove it to you cuz I don’t think you believe me.

4. The Art and Game of Tarot Cards

Guidance for the Week

Guidance for the Week

I’ve been working on connecting with my intuition more lately and it came to my attention that Tarot Cards are helpful tools for doing just that. It just so happened that the OSHO brand has a nice deck out, and that rascal Rajneesh has always been a friend of mine, so I picked it up to see what all the Tarot fuss was about. I wish I could accurately explain how magical these cards have proven to be. I don’t know if my intuition has been affected at all since using these cards but there has definitely been a lot more insight gained into my life and the lives of others. These seemingly random cards are almost always overtly on point. What I mean is I don’t even have to guess what they are referring to, when the card is flipped over everyone is like “yeah, true true, it got me.” If only I could tell you how these cards READ Katy up and down last night! Sometimes I flip over a card, see the meaning and just walk away in an amazed huff because it is so appropriate. So yeah, if you ever want a reading let me know because I love working with these cards.

5. I’m alright, I’m alright

Oh yeah we hosted a workshop during this hiatus. Good times.

Oh yeah we hosted a workshop during this hiatus. Good times.

Lately I’ve been getting a lot of feedback about the same issue from various sources: random strangers, not-so-random strangers, my wife, friends, Tarot cards, Mooji (indirectly because he don’t know me personally). Basically it surrounds how I hold myself accountable to old behaviors, lifestyles, habits, and problems and am not seeing myself for who I am now. Which is apparently a pretty wonderful, peaceful, helpful, and loving dude. I am in the process of doing a better job of acknowledging the way I currently show up in the world and letting go / forgiving my old ways. The best I can muster to this point though is a strong and sure “I’m aiight, I’m aiight.”

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I could go on for a bit longer but five random facts about my life that nobody asked about in the first place is more than enough I believe. For everyone who reached out and was like “sup with you not updating the blog though,” I sincerely appreciate your care and support. We’re in this together. For everyone who didn’t reach out, yall get half a sentence: Love You ______*.

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*too (I couldn’t leave yall hanging like that for real!)

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